Monday, April 4, 2011

Cautionary tale

I am feeling a bit dissapointed today , wishing I could go to the filming of the Steven & Chris episode where my segment will be , I can't wait to see how it all comes together and wonder what the boys will say ....nervous and excited I guess...but I must work this afternoon so I couldn't go , its fine . Oh it will air this Friday at 2:00pm on your CBC station in Canada and in the US check your local listings.

How funny is this comparison photo , the one on the left is me at probably 10 or so at my friends house for one of our many sleepovers, and then Mason at about the same age , I sure see the similarities , I tell you it startles me everyday when she comes walking in and is now taller than me at 12 years old , almost 13 in a couple of months , I have definately noticed the changes that go on with teens , the annoyed looks , rolling eyes , not wanting to be with us too much in public, I love to embarass her so much I try to refrain when in public I swear, so far things are going really well in this dept , so thankful for this, we are very open and honest about everything ...

You know I always warn my kids about predators in life and online , we did have an experience with a creep on Youtube recently with one oh my daughters friends , a creep asking for a 12 yr old to expose herself , please don't under estimate the importance of teaching safe computer use with your family , we have our computer in the kitchen for just this reason ...I can keep tuned into everything the kids do on the computer . Web cam's please why do we need those ?, I don't think we do , if you have far away family I see the point but for kids and teens , no way, it only takes a moment to make a major bad choice .

When I have those talks with the kids about pediphiles and inappropriate behaviour and even have warned about proper behaviour for teachers I get the "OK Mom !" I often wonder if they take me seriously , I don't think they think these things would really happen in their world.

Sadly Friday afternoon we all got word and it was all over the news that a teacher who taught at my kids school last year, which is an amazing award winning school that we love, was arrested for many counts of inappropriate behaviour including making child pornography, luring , posing as a girl on Facebook and online convincing boys to expose themselves via webcam and through photos , this is truly devastating to all of us. It is a nightmare , for all of those affected and decieved by this man .

I would like to say that our local police did a great job catching him , so happy to hear he was locked up and the school relieved him immediately of his duties.

This is a great lesson for our kids , we weren't just blowing smoke , this can and does happen , anywhere and every where. Such a betrayal of trust .

I wish we could just protect all our children of harm but sadly that is impossible but we must give them the tools to listen to their intuition and to know what is right and wrong to expect, and that just because someone is an adult doesn't mean that you need to do everything they ask of you , and most of all encourage them to speak up when something feels wrong and keep talking to your kids ...about everything because knowledge is power.

I apologize for an spelling errors my spell check wouldn't work


Jamie Thompson said...

Wow, nothing like something in your own backyard to make you appreciate being open and honest with your kids. My son is about to turn 5 and has no idea how to operate a computer and I like it that way! Of course he will learn soon enough, but even at his young age we have already started teaching him about stranger danger, predators on the computer and in real life. Of course in a manner appropriate for a 5 year old. I had a couple tragic events in my life as a young teen that I don't want anyone to ever go through, I think that those have given me an extra cautionary sense that some people don't have. It just kills me that grown adults prey on children. Our kids are our greatest treasure and like any treasure we should protect them with our all. Even if it means facing up to our own fears, being honest and truthful. Not to incite fear, but knowledge. Without it how will they know somethings "just not right"?
Thanks for posting this Chris! And congrats on the show! You deserve it! You and your home are amazing!

Cheryl said...

wow . . . thanks for posting this .. .a great reminder of how we need to protect our children. Good idea to keep your computer in your kitchen and better idea to not even have a web cam. :) I can't even believe how sick some people are. yuck

Keep On S'myelin! said...

I saw this on the local news over the past few days. A very important lesson to teach our children and to keep reminding them how to stay safe!

I'll have to remember to watch the S&C show this Friday! Congratulations!

Alyson said...

As a teacher at a junior high school, it always amazes me how many students have parents who have *no* idea what their children are doing online. Kudos to you for having those talks.

Cat & Cricket said...

I had a very similar situation last year with my daughter who was then 10... on you tube... it was horrid!
Thank you for posting... sad thing is.. my job.. is working with all these XXXXXXX who get caught....
Cricket @ gypseanurse

Ms.Cupcake said...

Thank you for posting this Chris it is a good reminder of the danger out there in the land of the internet. It is also a reminder of the need to be open and honest about 'bad people' that do exist in our the school teacher in your story.
A great idea to keep the computer front and center.
Hope this finds you all safe
Becky :)

"Cottage By The Sea" said...

Just blog hoppin today. Having fun over here and couldn't agree with you more about web cams and computer use. Kids (and some adults) for that matter, sometimes make impulsive decisions. Parenting is so much harder now with all the computer, iphone, etc. shenanigans to worry about. I'm glad I'm on my last kid at home, but I won't let up for a minute. No computers anywhere but a common area and I check, check and re check everything. We do a lot of talking too. Just talking about it is exhausting!

Maria said...

wonderful reminder!

SweDaisy said...

Amazing how much you look alike. I'm am not looking forward for the day I have to start worrying about such a scary issues. I agree with having an open relationship where your kids can always feel like they can talk to you. The more I hear of people we are supposed to trust abusing our innocent, the more I want to home school Olivia.

Take care,
My prayers are with your community,

Kim Hancock said...

Until laws are changed and we start handing down swift and severe punishment for this deviant behavior, this story will repeat over and over again.

Until then... we teach our kids boundaries and teach them not to live in fear, but live smarter.

We had a similar situation with an elementary school principal in our community. It was swept under the rug by the school board. And, his attorney was able to get the conviction dropped for child pornography... because he took the faces of little girls [little girls in our community] and put them on the bodies of women... so in the eyes of the court it was then "just" porn since the bodies were of adult females.

Makes me sick... sorry this has happened at your school!

michelle said...

It is scary and luckily my daughter is very careful on the computer and asks me before she does anything but that doesn't stop me from pounding it in her head that she needs to be very careful about what she does on the computer. And there are no cameras for the computer in this house. It is just sad that can't even trust the teachers at our schools. We have had incidents like that as well. :(